Firstly, let me reassert what is now a public knowledge. Neither pornography nor masturbation negatively impacts your potency. Having said that, let me add that the two of them have a tendency to become an addiction. So much so that for the addicted individual, it becomes the sole indulgence. The individual can not focus on his/her work, tends to become a recluse and loses his/her self-esteem. Slowly but surely, this addiction has a psychological impact if not physical.
I, once had reached those levels of addiction to both these habits. It feels so very liberating in confiding such personal facts to the internet. After all, you don't know me right?! :-)) What is known to the scientific world about this and in fact all these addictions is that in the human brain, there is a chemical called dopamine. This chemical is responsible for rewards and giving pleasures. So every time you feel a sudden surge of happiness or pleasure, blame or thank this chemical in your brain. What has dopamine got to do with the above topic?
It turns out that when we see a pretty person of opposite gender (I am keeping this discussion strictly hetero. Any readers with other tastes may replace the text accordingly), the dopamine starts playing with the brain. This is the beginning of the whole cycle that leads to you know what! In a way, you can say dopamine brings you into a mood. But there is this thing about this whole cycle of pleasure. You always want more. You are not satisfied with what you had last time. So every next time, you get into wilder thoughts/fantasies than last time. So while the last time, you were happy seeing a shapely babe with lovely breasts, this time you want to see her naked. You gratify this need by a short-cut. End up watching porn. This leads to further boredom with earlier porn-watching experience and you want to watch a wilder porn. This goes on till none of this titillates you any further. In the meanwhile, you have stopped socializing and started losing focus on work. But more importantly, what started off with attraction for the other gender, has now evolved into something else. Now the sole aim in life is to get your dose of instant pleasure. The focus no longer is on the subject (the person who gives you the pleasure). The focus is on the erection and the act of releasing off the cum. This can lead to psychological impotence.
Obviously, for a healthy social as well as sexual life, you don't want all of this. At some stage, I realized I need to break the vicious cycle. And that I did. I proactively made some healthy choices. I encouraged myself to reinvent myself by rediscovering my past hobbies and developing them further. This engaged my thoughts in a different direction. Whenever these thoughts used to drift away to the addiction, I would consciously refocus it back to the new-found passions. It is a tough process. For one long month, I decided to watch no pornography and to not fondle myself down there. While in the past, masturbation was almost a daily routine, I abstained from it, despite lot of wild urges.
It was punishing in the beginning. But I started realizing its fruits in the days that followed. This was almost about 2 years ago. Since then, I am feeling like an all new person altogether. I did attempt watching a porn movie. But I felt averse to the artificial scenes in those movies. The addiction has disappeared.
In the past, my mind was oriented to view women as sluts and toys to give me that instant pleasure. Now this has given way to a feeling of respect for the women. The attraction and its sexual effects continue to be there. In fact, I get even wilder erections when I see a hot female. But the focus is on the female form and not on instant gratification.
I do occasionally watch nude and semi-nude content. But not the hard-core kind. Also, whereas in the past, I used to be in an auto-pilot mode wherein my desire used to control me, now it is me who is in control.
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